26 Mar, 2019

We’ve all got questions about sex…should we ask Google?

With a computer in our pockets at all times, we might start to think we can get all the info we’d ever need from the internet. We ask Google for directions, recipes, and how to fix a bike. We’ve all got questions about sex, so should we ask Google about that, too? Is the use of sexually explicit content a good way to learn about love and relationships?

Movies, music, social media, and even video games have a lot to say about sex. Many of the images and ideas they provide are not just unhealthy, but super harmful for our entire world. Some of them tell us that sex is all about pleasure, and that we can get that feel-good sensation from anyone we want regardless of how it could hurt us or the other person. Explicit sexual content takes that destructive message to the extreme.

What is explicit content?

Sexually explicit content is any sort of visual display or written description of sexual activity or the sexual organs that someone uses to sexually stimulate themselves. It could be a photo, a video, or even a story or novel. Someone looks at or reads explicit content to give themselves some sort of sexual or emotional feeling.

Students sometimes ask, “What’s the big deal?? It’s just between me and my iPhone, right? I’m not hurting anybody.” Actually, explicit content hurts everybody involved. Fight the New Drug, an organization dedicated to raising awareness about the harmful effects of sexually explicit content, tells it like it is: it hurts the brain, relationships, and the world. It’s never positive and tells us lies about real sex and love.

Why isn’t it good sex ed?

It’s fake.

Just like any movie, it is scripted, acted, directed, and edited. It does not show what real sex is like, or how real people want to be treated.

It’s violent.

It contributes to the major sexual violence issues that men, women, and kids experience worldwide. One 2010 study analyzed the 50 most popular explicit sexual films, and 88% contained physical violence and 49% contained verbal aggression.

It’s addictive.

It affects the brain the same way that drugs like cocaine and heroin do. Viewers can get so hooked that they can’t go a day without it. This addiction can also prevent someone’s body from being able to have sex with a real person because they’re so used to these fake images.

It’s anti-love.

Half of divorces state that it was a part of why that marriage fell apart. When someone finds out their partner has been looking at sexually explicit content, they often feel cheated on because their partner is looking at someone else for sexual pleasure.

It’s anti-freedom.

Many people filmed or photographed for sexually explicit content have been sex-trafficked (a fancy word for slavery). Men, women, and kids all over the globe are forced or pressured into the explicit content businesses. They’re they’re abused, drugged, not protected from STDs, and treated like property. There’s no way to know by looking at the photo or video whether or not those actors chose to be there. Any explicit content, even if it’s of two consenting adults, increases the demand for sexual slavery.

We are responsible.

Do you want to be part of the problem or part of the solution? If you’ve got questions about sex, that’s totally okay! But the use of sexually explicit content is never okay. Always ask a trusted adult in your life about sex and relationships. This could be a parent, a friend’s parent, a doctor, a counselor, a mentor, or any other adult in your life that you know is trustworthy.

Any time someone looks at explicit sex, they’re contributing to the sex-trafficking business that makes more than the NFL, the MLB, and the NBA combined in a year. They’re exposing themselves to addiction. They’re hurting their own current and future relationships.

There’s another option: refuse to click. Raise awareness. As Fight the New Drug says, “fight for real love.” Go to fightthenewdrug.org to learn more about how you can spread the word about real love and fight against addiction, broken relationships, and sexual slavery.

Already hooked on sexually explicit content? It’s never too late to make changes! Check out our list of tips on overcoming a habit of using explicit sexual content here. Fight the New Drug’s Fortify Program is also a great free app to help anyone who wants freedom from the addiction. Other popular software like Covenant Eyes, X3watch, and Accountable2You are great resources designed for filtering and keeping users accountable to trusted friends and family.

There are too many awesome resources out there to not get help! Choose freedom today.

By Kath Crane

Resources:

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1077801210382866

Fight the New Drug